How To Be A Hero To Your Children – When Divorce Is Your Enemy

If you're not divorced, I bet you know someone who is. Today, divorce is as common as finding toilet paper on sale at the supermarket. It's not good. To clarify, I'm talking about divorce, not the sale.
When you add children to the equation, divorce gets more complicated and can easily tear families apart, especially when the parents can't communicate with each other and can't learn to co-parent effectively. It's not pretty.
As a divorce attorney, dealing with custody battles and “adult bickering” make me want to pull whatever hair I have left out. When the children are stuck in the middle, it puts them in a hard spot and the effects on them can be irreparable. Children are adaptable, but only to a point. It always makes me sad to see parents who can't put their children's interests ahead of their own disdain for each other. It doesn't have to be that way.
If your children only witness toxic parenting and constant parental fighting (even a..

16 Tweets For People Who Don’t Have Time For Their Exes

There’s no way around it: Even the most civil breakups can be messy.

Still, that doesn’t mean you can’t handle yourself with dignity. Below, 16 people on Twitter share how to deal with an ex and breakup like it’s no big thing.

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‘Real Housewife’ Bethenny Frankel’s Ex Husband Charged With Stalking And Harassment

This story has turned more “Desperate Housewives” than “Real Housewives.”

Page Six reports that Bethenny Frankel’s ex-husband, Jason Hoppy, was recently charged with harassing and stalking the “Real Housewives of New York” star.

An NYPD spokeswoman told Page Six that Hoppy had sent “numerous emails” and made hundreds of FaceTime calls to Frankel ― despite a cease and desist letter being sent to him on Nov. 22, 2016.

According to the outlet, Hoppy was arrested after turning up at the former couple’s 6-year-old daughter’s school at 8:15 one morning. He allegedly threatened Frankel by yelling, “I will destroy you, you can get all the lawyers you want, you’ve been warned.”

Hoppy was arrested hours later and charged with harassment in the first degree and stalking in the fourth degree. He denies these charges.

What’s transpired since the couple split has all been particularly jarring as the former flames were once the stars of two television shows together, “Bethenny Getting Married” a..

Breaking Up: The Final Goodbye.

Class started at 5PM. I got there early, so I could sit outside and read. I have many half-read works on my shelves, because, I become distracted by the happenings around me, or another intriguing cover steals my attention.
That's what I love about books: they don't go anywhere, they don't turn their page without your permission. They'll wait patiently for your return and if you don't come back, they'll still sit there, and grin knowingly from their perch. Books don't question their worth; they know their value. They trust they'll be appreciated by someone eventually, whether that be you or someone else.
The book I'm reading, I've been reading for a year and a half now. It's over a thousand pages, an anthology of essays and poems from the classical era to the present. I pick it up when I need a mental adjustment.
I love sitting outside this time of year, the weather is cool enough to wear a scarf, yet not quite cold enough to need ..

5 Reasons I Tried To Save My Marriage When Others Thought I Was Crazy

This article first appeared on DivorcedMoms.com

I didn’t want a divorce. In fact, I would have done anything within my power to save my marriage and keep my family intact. Over the years, I’ve taken some grief for that attitude from those who haven’t been in my situation and are rather flippant about how they would react if they had been in my situation.

It’s easy to ask, “Why would you want to remain married to a man who no longer wanted to be married to you?” Especially when it is not your man or marriage that is in danger. I loved my husband, our children, the family we had built and our history together. I can think of no better reason to try and stave off a divorce, can you?

Below are the reasons I did everything I could to save my marriage:

1. My children

My children deserved the best life had to offer, they didn’t deserve the negative impact of a divorce. An intact family is the best for all children. My children were too good to be left by their father. They deserved to gr..

8 Things They Teach You At Blow Job School

Ever wonder what goes down behind closed doors at blow job workshops? Wonder no more!

Below, sex educators and other experts from around the country share their best advice from BJ classes. (NSFW material ahead!)

1. Start slow.
“It’s fun to start soft. Let your partner get hard in your mouth, without any motion. Just let them experience the warmth of your breath and wetness of your tongue then gently begin to suck. Anticipation will make your partner even hotter.” ― Rebekah Beneteau, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

2. Don’t shy away from lube.
“People often think that their own saliva will be enough lubrication to get the job done. It’s actually best to add a bit of lube to get started: either water-based or silicone. After a few minutes, you may build up enough of your own juices to keep the action going. Sucking on a hard, sugar-free candy can also help you build up saliva.” ― Melissa Jones, a sexologis..

Valentine’s Day Is Just Another Tricky Day When You’re Divorced

You glance at the calendar. “Ugh,” you think. “It’s coming. Valentine’s Day.”

“How could time pass so quickly?” you wonder. “Didn’t I just survive Thanksgiving? Christmas? New Year’s Eve? And without Billy Crystal to come running a few minutes before midnight, no less.”

January was a blur. “Thankfully,” you jest. But now you remind yourself, “The worst is yet to come.”

None of this has to be the case. Even if you are divorced, whether recently or for decades and are presently uncoupled, Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to spell Ben & Jerry’s and sappy rom coms. That’s because Valentine’s Day isn’t only about romance.

Valentine’s Day, named after the Christian martyr, Valentine (of which there were many), dates back to the 5th century and is rooted in the ancient Roman fertility festival, Lupercalia. The holiday didn’t become associated with romantic love, however, until the 14th century with the popularization of courting. Not until the 18th century did Valentine’s Day traditions such ..

In Alaska, Divorce Courts Must Now Consider Pet Wellbeing

This month, Alaska became the first state in which judges are required to consider animal welfare in cases where divorcing couples have a pet.

Legislation signed by Gov. Bill Walker (I) in October, which became effective Jan. 17, adds amendments to the state’s divorce laws that have major implications not only for animal welfare, but for the health and safety of human beings as well.

Generally, animals are considered property under the law. But Alaska’s new amendments mean that a judge cannot simply regard a pet in a divorce case the same way they would a table or a chair, and instead must take “the well-being of the animal” into consideration when making decisions, The Washington Post reports. The law also makes legal joint custody of a pet an option.

As the Animal Legal Defense Fund (ALDF) points out, judges across the U.S. can already choose to consider an animal’s wellbeing in a divorce case — but it’s up to their discretion. Alaska is the first state to codify into law that jud..

The Science Behind Heartbreak And How To Heal

Going through a breakup or a heartache? Here's the science behind why your heart aches and how to get back up.

It's the chemicals that are causing you to idealize your ex
When we are in lust, we have rose-tinted glasses that highlights only the positive qualities of the apple of our eye, and not the negative ones. Research shows that in the throes of love, the part of our brain responsible for processing judgment and negative emotions, the amygdala and prefrontal cortex, switches off. Simultaneously, the reward areas of the brain are switched on, encouraging you (subconsciously) to keep the bonding and attachment going. The chemical cocktail that occurs in the lust phase of a relationship is deeply wired in our brains and has everything to do with nature priming us to procreate. Generally, these changes in chemical and hormonal reactions last on average of eight months to two years, which explains why newly smitten lovers often idealize their partner – magnifying their partn..

‘Biased’ Changes To Egypt’s Divorce Laws Over Custody Prompt Outcry

An amendment that would give custody of children to their father if their mother remarries has sparked outrage among Egyptian women and their advocates, who claim it highlights systemic gender biases in family laws.

Hanna’s husband put her through years of psychological and physical abuse before she managed to divorce him. The Egyptian single mother, now 27, was living with her family in the U.S. when her husband Amir raped her. She pressed charges and he spent a month in prison, but he was then released when her family convinced her to drop the charges. After she returned to Egypt to file for a divorce, Amir followed her back to the country and abducted their only son Kareem, then three years old, and kept him hidden in a beach town in Sinai for three months. When Hanna got her son back and continued to push for the divorce, Amir put a knife to her throat.

Eventually, in 2014, a judge granted Hanna a divorce, but said that because Amir hadn’t given his consent for the divorce, she h..